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i don't think I'll receive any kind of help for my sad situation

coming2terms started this conversation
Nov 3, 2010

I only hope I receive some kind of help as I need help ASAP, I just received a call from my scumbag lawyer, he says I owe him $100 for services rendered when I payed the guy almost $5000 for his help. left me bone dry, I explained to him what my situation is & how I applied for GR and he just said, "well I need to get paid I have kids to feed" can you believe that? After I told him practically the same thing except letting him know that I am destitute. This guy is snake, I received a 2nd DUI on December 2009(my first was about to hit the 10 year mark in about a month, which I was totally guilty of) & I wasn't even driving, never was My friend was & we ran out of gas on the freeway so he left on foot to the gas station to get gas for my truck never came back!!!! That's why I hired him he said he would get the charges dropped, but instead I got charged with a 2nd DUI!!!! what a jip! so I had to pay for my vehicle to be stored for 30 days which was $2,500. Then I had to pay lawyer fees (almost $5000) also, court fees mounted up to $4,000, then I had to pay for alcohol classes $1,537 then I had to pay another lawyer as my wife, whom I still love divorced me, there went another $3,000. From that point I basically was living from check to check until I kicked out of our apartment & my ex-wife & child still live there. I virtually have nothing and no one to turn to for help. My parents & family are poor & I was the biggest earner so, no help from them. I am starting to hate money because it's such a hassle to obtain now, every single dollar I receive I contemplate what I should put it towards then a feeling of overwhelmingness rushes over me & I can't think straight & try to hold back the tears & pain but can't help it. It's a sad sight to see, a grown man trying to hold back tears of financial burden. I just hope my son never has to go thru what I am going thru.

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Schmidty
Nov 8, 2010

I won't give you a lecture on drinking and driving, I'm sure you have heard and thought enough about that.

Whoknew has covered quite a bit but there might b just a bit more information you can squeeze out by going to http://Schmidty.Aidpage.com or clicking on my picture, then blog, then look for the postings. Good Luck and God Bless

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coming2terms
Nov 4, 2010
 in response to whoknew...   Thank you so much, whoknoew, your kind words do alleviate my pain. I will look into the information that you gave me, many thanks my friend and god bless.
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Anonymous
Nov 3, 2010

The question here is: were the keys in the ignition? If they were, then unfortunately, you are guilty in the eyes of the law. 

As for your attorney, well, I think you pretty much summed him up. Unfortunately, it appears that like most attorneys he failed to tell you the truth. Surprised? I'm not.

ok so you lost everything... you've got nothing left to lose. So its time to start from the bottom and work your way up, and out of this mess.

First things first. You need a place to stay, food, and transportation. From what you have stated, I am guessing you have that. If I am wrong, please correct me.

Next, you need money to maintain that. Aside from the "friend" who screwed you over, is there anyone else you can trust to get you some side jobs? Even something part-time, and off the books. Get that jerk of an attorney paid off first of all... I don't care if you pay him $5/wk - just get rid of him. and make sure you rget an itemized receipt for his bill.

To help with food and other necessities and to help you save some much needed money go to local food pantries - check 211.org - they can help with that. LIHEAP can help with heating costs for the winter. And depending on your income, you may qualify for some social services check with benefits.gov

If you are looking for an actual financial grant - modest needs may be able to help.

Also check with places like Catholic Charities, Salvation Army, St vincent de paul and other organizations - all of these are listed on my homepage.

Mistakes happen. But it doesn't mean this is the end - it is simply a new beginning. Take what you have learned from this situation and apply it to your life. Know who your friends are. Show your son, wife, and family, that people can change even in the worst of situations. This doesn't have to ruin your life, it can completely turn it around. No, it is not the ideal situation, but in time, it will get better. Do what needs to be done and work harder and smarter to get where you need to be. Breaking down is ok, but don't let it break you. You are stronger than you realize.

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